DATING WITH PURPOSE

Nowadays, when we hear purpose and dating in the same sentence, we quickly assume that we are talking about waiting on God and expecting trances, dreams and visions to know who His will for us will be.

Come off that.

Not everyone will see a particular brother or sister and hear a voice shouting from above that that is the bone of your bone or flesh of your flesh. How many even has that experience?

God's will in relationships isn't about having a soulmate but doing what He wills for you in love.

You are compatible with more than one person, so free yourself from the shackle of 'if it's not one person, then it's no one'.

Even though you can date anyone, you don't have to date recklessly. If there is a purpose for your life, then there is a purpose for your love. Marriage or a love affair isn't a transaction but a commitment.

Don't date or be with someone just for the fun of it. Respect and love yourself enough to be single if you don't have a reason to be in a relationship. Know why you are in a relationship and why you are with that particular person.

Am I in this for the reasons or for my selfish gains? Do I want a fling or a commitment? How does the other person feel about this? Do I really like this person? What do I like about this person? Do I see a future with them? What type of future do I see?

Asking the right questions and finding the right answers would help you find purpose for your love life and how properly to navigate the sails.

That person is more than someone to call baby. They will be your best friend, lover, confidant, shoulder to lean and cry on, arms to hold you, parent to your future kids so choose wisely.

If you don't see your future or kids in them, let them go. Don't be a pharaoh. Date with purpose and stick to it. Having no purpose in relationships is why one would claim to be in love with someone and fall in love with another.

That is absurd if you ask me.

Be clear with your partner on the purpose of your hearts.

Marriage and love are empty boxes, it is what we put into it that we get. Marriage isn't scam. Love isn't scam. It is the people involved who determine the form it takes for them, so, I urge you to not be the scam that makes love hurtful.

© Temidayo Olaleye